Thinking Kinky : The Nappy Haired Diva

Gwen sat in the hot sun. Her shapely legs were crossed and she wriggled to pull her already too short dress over her ample thighs. Kevin sat across from her, fighting the grin that wanted to overtake his face. He always observed everything she did. Maybe it was a bad habit. "I just don't understand it Kev," Gwen sighed in a peevish tone. "I have talked to, dated, and been in a relationship with at least 20 men over the past three years and I am still sitting here single." Kevin nodded his head compassionately as he sipped his espresso. Gwen gave up on her crossed legs and instead pressed them firmly together while tugging at her dress yet again. She hated being "curvy". She often felt lumpy and wished she were about 15lbs thinner."Maybe it's my size. Maybe men want waifs." she offered.Kevin shook his head and screwed his face as if what she had said was way off the mark. "Well then what is it?! " Gwen moaned in exas...

I have a friend. He's so sweet to me. He writes me poetry, he sends me music, we text, we email, we talk... this guy is wonderful. Did I mention he's my friend?? He's so into me. We flirt, we laugh, we talk about our favorite foods, we plan to travel together, last night he had the steamiest dream about ME and just reading the details made my face flush beet red. Did I mention he's my friend?? He listens to me about my dating woes, he listens to me complain about slacking off on going to the gym, he likes to hear my voice, he loves when we go spelunking (private joke), he accepts my quirks and my expressions and my hang ups. But- he's my friend. You know what I like best about this friendship? Its free. Its open. Its easy. I don't have to worry about the labels. I don't have to wonder where its going or where it won't be going. I don't have to care who else he sends poetry or who else he spelunks with. All I know is I can text him a *Slurp* and he kn...

I have plenty of people that I am friendly with, but seldom do I claim people as friends. It took me many years to come this conclusion. I would become friends with someone only to find out that our interaction didn't quite qualify as friendship. Now that I have learned how to make friends, I am so very happy that I have been fortunate to have the friends that I do. However, there are the few that proclaim to be your friend and aren't truly your friend at all. So I wanted to create a list of the types of "friends" you may run into because I have that much time on my hands today. 1) The Too Cool For School Friend: This friend calls you when the mood strikes, hangs out with you if the two of you happen to be within a 2 mile radius of each other at the same time and seldom ever knows whats going on in your life. However, they will always refer to you as a friend in company and in private. You often wonder why you go along with this description of a clearly casual a...