Thinking Kinky : The Nappy Haired Diva

The Top 5 Reasons Why Your Marriage Is Failing You're Cheating. Now you don't have to take this literally. It doesn't mean that you are stepping outside of the relationship to meet your sexual needs. Cheating can be emotional or social. Let me explain: If you're investing your time into everyone and everything else before you invest in your partner (which is synonymous for your marriage), then you are in essence cheating your spouse out of the time and attention that they need. It may seem hard to do but nothing falls out of that category; family, friends, work, kids, etc. Your spouse should trump all of those things. If you are putting your spouse first, they will give you the balance and support you need to tend to that work assignment, family gathering, ailing parent, or growing children. So often people put other things ahead and logically justify it however if your spouse is last on your list to address, so is your marriage. Confiding in your friends more ...

Luckily, I have only had one relationship with a cheater (to my knowledge). After the first confession, the devestation, the tears, and finallly the reconciliation I managed to tolerate my mans cheating ways for almost ten years. The expense of my committment was insecurity and chronic invasion of his privacy. I was a cell phone checking, caller ID scrolling, email hacking wife. It finally got to the point that my husband at the time wondered aloud why I loved to hurt my own feelings by digging for his dirt. "You will always find something." He would say. Later, I wonder the same thing. Did I really need to confirm what I had already knew? Apparently so. Why did I have this need? I recall feeling so stealth and slick when I was hacking into his email accounts and tracking his browsing history. However, by the end of my digging, all I found was heartache and betrayal. What I realized was that I didn't need the confirmation. However, I wanted it so badly because I want...

Usually I like to do the whole "thought provoking approach" when it comes to my blog entries but today, today is nitty gritty, down and dirty day. So Julia Roberts has another film out... I think its called Eat Pray Love (what kind of title is this?). Anyhow, the scenario is that a woman gets divorced, goes out and lives life. From what I hear, at the end of the movie she finds Mr. Right. (take a moment to absorb this information..... blink a few times.....then scroll down.) WHY? Why does this woman's happy ending have to include her finding a man? Are there not any happy women out there without men? Why do so many movies end with women finding men and then feeling "complete". It sends my inner feminist on a rampage. I know lots of women who were and are quite happy being single. This makes me so annoyed. I want to boycott the movie but I won't just becuase I feel it deserves to be subjected to my own interpretation rather than my ranting on account of someo...