Thinking Kinky : The Nappy Haired Diva

When I heard that K-Ci and Jo-Jo were coming out with a reality show documenting their experience going through rehab, I was excited. The first thing I wanted to know was which one was K-Ci and which one was Jo-Jo (yes, it has been that long since I have seen let alone heard of them since highschool). I always loved Jodeci and when the two lead singers of the group branched off and made a few ballads I looked forward to hearing more, but more never came. Years passed by and I continued to play their hits and came to terms with the fact that this group was never going to reunite and the two brothers whose vocals lead the group to super stardom with were coked up and out for the count. Enter K-Ci and Jo-Jo: Coming Clean. I figured they were going to finally boot the snow blizzard that packed their nostrils. WRONG. They are kicking the alcohol habit. They claim that there was never a drug problem. We all have heard otherwise, but they insist. If moscato can turn me into what these t...

I was born in the 80's. So being an 80's baby I am a total lover of 90's music. Anything from the late 80's to the late 90's is my kind of music. Growing up, one of my favorite girl groups was Salt and Peppa. Their career spanned into the 90's and they came out with a song called "Whatta Man" (please don't ask me why they spelled it this way. It was the early 90's for Pete's sake... it was a world of bamboo earring and asymetrical hair do's). In this song the women are raving about the men that drive them wild. These men are honored for various reasons. In one verse, a man is praised for being a ho on the down low and being so engaging and silly that he makes his woman want to birth his children... this translates much better in lyric form. Another verse praises a man for a beautiful body and a face to go with it. He gives his woman gifts and is very intelligent.... getting warmer. The other two verses pretty much sum up a man that k...

If I had the money...If I had a job...If I had a degree...If I were married...If I was feeling well... If you would have told me...If I never met him...If I never met her... If you listened to me... I hate the word 'if". If is normally the prelude to an excuse. Nothing becomes of 'ifs'. Stop using the word. As a matter of fact, just drop the "f". Start using the word "I" instead. When you use the word I, you are now holding yourself accountable and hopefully making affirmations instead of excuses. I have the money, I have a job, I have a degree, I am married, I feel better, I told you, I met him, I met her, I listen to you.... Doesn't that sound better? A persons word is very important to me. When the only word I keep hearing is "if", all other words just don't seem as important anymore. So if you are a person that makes a ton of exscuses... when I shut you down and hurt your feelings... ask me IF I care.