Skip to main content

She's A ...Which?

I remember quarreling with plenty men in my day but the worst thing a man could ever call you was a bitch. Calling a girl a bitch and you would surely have a search team of brothers, boyfriends, and cousins hunting your ass for a well-deserved beat down. The "B" word wasn't tolerated. These days it seems far more acceptable.
Someone can say "I have the perfect bitch" or "that's my bitch". You may even hear a woman say "I'm a bad bitch". One person I know said that if her man calls her a bitch at 'the right time', it will send her over the edge (sexually). We all have little things we like to be called in the bedroom but what about everyday conversation? If one of your closest friends said "you're my bitch and I love you for life.....Would that be a heartfelt sentiment or a recipe for jaw tapping? I wouldn't want a man to call me a bitch in the bed or in the street. It's just not my thing. Perhaps I'm being too much of a prude.
I often refer to inanimate objects as bitches. When my car was acting up, I parked it called a towing company and got rid of that bitch. When I moved and I had to do a deep cleaning on my new bathroom, I bought some Lysol and scrubbed the hell out of the bitch. See? Just some personification up in this bitch, that's all.
However, calling a person a bitch typically happens when I am angry with them. It's DELIBERATE and intended to be rude. Now I will admit that when I'm being stubborn and demanding a standard of respect, salary, etc. When asked why I feel I deserve these things I may very well summarize my explanation with: "because I'm THAT bitch." Thing is I know I'm being difficult, I know I'm a pain in the ass, I know that I'm not the most fun person to be around. Thinking of it though, why does a demanding woman have to be characterized as a bitch anyway? Why not be a woman who knows what she wants and refuses to accept anything less than that? Is being a bitch ever a positive thing?
When is being a bitch okay? I understand I may be out of the loop! Being the perfect bitch or a bad ass bitch or bitcheriffic or some bitch (sorry, had to give a shout out to EB White, Char and my boy Willie) may be a way of taking an otherwise negative word and turning it into something positive. However if all we are doing is taking something negative and embracing it for no reason at all then it could be said we are taking steps in the wrong direction...now ain't THAT a bitch?

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

And I Am Telling You... Breaking Up Is Hard To Do!

Dreamgirls was a successful Broadway play for years. It even made it's way to the big screen in 2006. Original headliners of the staged version included then little known Loretta Divine and now long forgotten Jennifer Holliday. Watching the performance of the then robust and popular Holliday allowed me to witness her successful portrayal of the scorned character Effie White. In a passionate performance she screamed, sobbed and belted the lyrics of "And I Am Telling You, I'm Not Going" in such a way that years later many have made a valiant effort to match her vocal bravado in singing the same song. Of those attempts, most have fallen far from the mark. With this knowledge, I wondered why was it that Jennifer Hollidays career didn't move much further beyond her Dreamgirls fame. Upon doing a bit of google research ( not the most reliable, but definitely the most convenient) I have found several theories as to why Jennifer Holiday's career came to a standstill...
Post a Comment
Read more

Good Morning Heartache....

When I was about 14 my mother gave me a book called "Good Morning Holy Spirit". It was a Christian book that was aimed to keep believers in tune with God. It encouraged the reader to wake up each morning and greet God, allowing Him to play a role in your life each day. I still try to do that. Recently, I realized that another part of my life that I can certainly do without is heartache. Getting married and going through the motions of a divorce gives way to feelings that are far from pleasant. It's stressful, it's emotionally draining and it hurts like the dickens. With all of these aches and pains I still press on with my decision to end my marriage. My husband understands. For the first time last night, I poured my heart out to him, sobbed and expressed my pain. I told him that I loved him, but I could never be with him again. I admitted that I don't know how to be his wife. I admitted that I am petrified of being a single parent to two girls. I mourn...
2 comments
Read more

K-Ci & Jo-Jo Come Clean.... : REVIEW

When I heard that K-Ci and Jo-Jo were coming out with a reality show documenting their experience going through rehab, I was excited. The first thing I wanted to know was which one was K-Ci and which one was Jo-Jo (yes, it has been that long since I have seen let alone heard of them since highschool). I always loved Jodeci and when the two lead singers of the group branched off and made a few ballads I looked forward to hearing more, but more never came. Years passed by and I continued to play their hits and came to terms with the fact that this group was never going to reunite and the two brothers whose vocals lead the group to super stardom with were coked up and out for the count. Enter K-Ci and Jo-Jo: Coming Clean. I figured they were going to finally boot the snow blizzard that packed their nostrils. WRONG. They are kicking the alcohol habit. They claim that there was never a drug problem. We all have heard otherwise, but they insist. If moscato can turn me into what these t...
9 comments
Read more