I was born in the 80's. So being an 80's baby I am a total lover of 90's music. Anything from the late 80's to the late 90's is my kind of music. Growing up, one of my favorite girl groups was Salt and Peppa. Their career spanned into the 90's and they came out with a song called "Whatta Man" (please don't ask me why they spelled it this way. It was the early 90's for Pete's sake... it was a world of bamboo earring and asymetrical hair do's).
In this song the women are raving about the men that drive them wild. These men are honored for various reasons. In one verse, a man is praised for being a ho on the down low and being so engaging and silly that he makes his woman want to birth his children... this translates much better in lyric form. Another verse praises a man for a beautiful body and a face to go with it. He gives his woman gifts and is very intelligent.... getting warmer. The other two verses pretty much sum up a man that knows his way around a womans body. Lets just say that he's a "pleaser".... the descriptions are starting sound like something I can relate to.
Being a single-minded woman ( I have an ongoing struggle with the realization that I am legally married, legally separted but emotionally single) I often reflect on what failed in my relationship. I have figured out what I don't want in a man, but I am not sure what I do want. Salt and Peppa really seemed to have it down, and here I am confused and uncertain. Is a partner who can make your toes curl straight off the ball of your foot when you're making love the one for you? Or is sexual compatibility a plus, but not a requirment? I can certainly say of my past relationship that I am VERY spoiled in the sex department. I don't think I would tolerate certain things. At the same time, a man that cheats but is discreet... nah! I know that some women are okay with open relationships, however I don't understand the purpose of a relationship when its open. Why not date indefinitely?
Whatever the case, when I listen to Salt and Peppa praising men for having all the things that they appreciated and desired I realized that it is high time that I figure out what I want in a man and work on myself so that I put myself in a better position of finding that man. What do you look for in a man? Or, have you been blessed to quit looking?
However, the one thing that I will say is there isn't a man crazy enough, to make me want to have his baby. Those days are over.
In this song the women are raving about the men that drive them wild. These men are honored for various reasons. In one verse, a man is praised for being a ho on the down low and being so engaging and silly that he makes his woman want to birth his children... this translates much better in lyric form. Another verse praises a man for a beautiful body and a face to go with it. He gives his woman gifts and is very intelligent.... getting warmer. The other two verses pretty much sum up a man that knows his way around a womans body. Lets just say that he's a "pleaser".... the descriptions are starting sound like something I can relate to.
Being a single-minded woman ( I have an ongoing struggle with the realization that I am legally married, legally separted but emotionally single) I often reflect on what failed in my relationship. I have figured out what I don't want in a man, but I am not sure what I do want. Salt and Peppa really seemed to have it down, and here I am confused and uncertain. Is a partner who can make your toes curl straight off the ball of your foot when you're making love the one for you? Or is sexual compatibility a plus, but not a requirment? I can certainly say of my past relationship that I am VERY spoiled in the sex department. I don't think I would tolerate certain things. At the same time, a man that cheats but is discreet... nah! I know that some women are okay with open relationships, however I don't understand the purpose of a relationship when its open. Why not date indefinitely?
Whatever the case, when I listen to Salt and Peppa praising men for having all the things that they appreciated and desired I realized that it is high time that I figure out what I want in a man and work on myself so that I put myself in a better position of finding that man. What do you look for in a man? Or, have you been blessed to quit looking?
However, the one thing that I will say is there isn't a man crazy enough, to make me want to have his baby. Those days are over.
Im not looking for Mr. Right hopefully will come to me. The person that I would like to be with has the potential but not the mind set. I'm still young and this whole dating thing is really just starting for me...so well see...
ReplyDeleteI think Danielle has already found her Mr. Right! LOL...Just looking back and reflecting. :)
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