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Ask Me Out Already?!

I am becoming restless. I am single, but not single...I want to date, however I don't feel as if I am in a position to do so. I want to meet someone worth my time, however its too soon to consider committing my time to someone else.
So, I have a bit of a crush. I won't elaborate and you can't coerce me. He seems to be a sweet, smart and good looking guy. Problem: He won't make a move. I have no clue as to how he feels about me. He does things that lead me to believe he is interested but he has yet to ask me out or ask me for my number. I refuse to solicit his company and I wonder if that is all the push he needs.
And so begins my foray into the world of dating. I have no clue as to what to do or what I am doing. I now realize the comforts of marriage. I had someone that I came home to, that came home to me (well, thats debatable) and if I went to a bar, lounge or club I never had to worry about who was going to approve of and eventually attempt to get to know me. Now I am in the realm of single life where first appearances are crucial, lonliness is a reality and the only official is the superficial.
Cheers!
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  1. AnonymousJanuary 5, 2011 at 10:25 PM

    Girl I am in the same boat as you with a damn crush and don't know what to do....ugghhhhh All I know is this ship needs to set sail very quickly cuz i am sooooo frikkin impatient.

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  2. KPJanuary 17, 2011 at 11:46 PM

    Um...just ask him what's the deal, love. Nothing's been invested yet, so you have nothing to lose but a little face. =oD

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 15, 2011 at 7:16 PM

    If you never work up the nerve to say anything, you might miss out on something beautiful. It doesn't always have to be the male making the advance. Yes the chase is fun (sometimes), but I gurantee you some men may be in the same position as you. Believe it or not some guys just don't see the clues. The list can go on and on. The point is very simple and has already been stated...........just ask!!!!!!!

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  4. thinkinkyFebruary 15, 2011 at 7:34 PM

    Thanks for the advice KP and Anon.
    I am a true lady (well, I try to be). I don't solicit men. A man has to tell me something. There is no way that I am going to put myself out there. Bottom line: If he wants me he ought to say or show it. If not, I'll move on to the man that will. Besides, I have an ego the size of Texas. I can't bear the rejection! LOL
    @Sabbie: You know what I have to say: DROP IT. If he can't find the balls to make his feelings known, go with the guy who will. Life is too short to be daydreaming about some dude that won't holler. Oh, and shouldn't your screen name be Stella? LMAO

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