Thinking Kinky : The Nappy Haired Diva

Most of us have been in a relationship, and acted a complete fool only for the one we love and/or care for to gather their last bit of dignity and make what feels like a hasty retreat. Never mind that their departure was more than likely a long time coming. We pushed their their patience beyond their limit and tap danced on their last nerve. Still we always seem so crushed when we are left alone to ponder our folly. Lets flip the coin shall we? Have you ever been the one who had your fair share of drama and decided to give your significant other the pink slip? This was something I had to do some months ago. I fount myself in what would best be described as a torrid love affair and as we drew closer to it's conclusion I literally couldn't wait to be done with the whole thing. As soon as I saw my chance I packed my lessons from the failed coupling and ran for my life. Looking back, it may have mean more a trot. I was pretty beat down from the relationship. It drained me of almost...

It has come to my attention that we are living in a self-centered society. More and more I run into people and even family members who seem to be so consumed with their lives that they seldom stop to wonder how anyone else is doing. It all reminds me of the rabbit in Alice in Wonderland who ran all about shouting that he is late. He never took the time to pause and see what it was that Alice was trying to tell him.  I know that life is hard. Its hard for me, its hard for you. I know that we all feel like super heros. We are in an economic downturn, we are busy, we are parents, we are wives, we are husbands, but we need to stop and be HUMAN. Pick up a phone, send a text, shoot an email, stop by. I know that the clock keeps ticking, but everyone isn't always going to be on YOUR clock and they shouldn't have to schedule an  "I love you" or a "how have you been." I too have been really selfish. I have been consumed with so many life changes that I have caught...

So, I met a guy... Don't roll your eyes yet. He's normal. I say he's normal because he's honest enough to show me how weird he is. Therefore, there won't be many surprises in my future. We had been friends for a long time, with the friendship progressing nowhere past maybe two lunch dates, and several emails. Fast forward, we start chatting and flirting via text. Its light at first, then it gets heavy. We are having a grand old time. Still, talk is cheap so I don't allow myself to believe much more than the reality of what is happening between us. We are two people who flirt with one another. We fell off again.. something that occurs frequently with me because I have relationship ADD. Its just hard for me to maintain interest in anyone for extended periods. One really has to capture and hold my attention otherwise I'm like a cat with a new toy. I paw at everything. This time, he captures my attention in a BIG way. He send me an eye-catching picture that w...