Most of us have been in a relationship, and acted a complete fool only for the one we love and/or care for to gather their last bit of dignity and make what feels like a hasty retreat. Never mind that their departure was more than likely a long time coming.
We pushed their their patience beyond their limit and tap danced on their last nerve. Still we always seem so crushed when we are left alone to ponder our folly.
Lets flip the coin shall we? Have you ever been the one who had your fair share of drama and decided to give your significant other the pink slip?
This was something I had to do some months ago. I fount myself in what would best be described as a torrid love affair and as we drew closer to it's conclusion I literally couldn't wait to be done with the whole thing. As soon as I saw my chance I packed my lessons from the failed coupling and ran for my life. Looking back, it may have mean more a trot. I was pretty beat down from the relationship. It drained me of almost everything I had and I was lucky to even have legs to stand on afterward!
After using the cold turkey method (my favorite way to get over someone) to my surprise and dismay,... I was contacted...REPEATEDLY.
Let's be honest, there is a certain part of you that enjoys their suffering, their groveling and sadness over your absence in their life. My inner sadist smirked at the pain that ironically I was now causing but once experienced daily.
I'm not a true sadist however, so my smug response quickly wore off and evened into annoyance. I had no idea why I was still being contacted when I clearly did not want to speak. Eventually,...hopefully after 3 months of attempts to reconcile with me,each attempt was unable to penetrate my armor of adamance and was only met with rejection.
This led to frustration and anger, and possibly pain however, it's no longer my battle. I fought long enough.
What really struck me is the dedication to make a relationship work after all of my interest and efforts were extracted. To make it plain, I wasn't even an option.
I find it pointless to pursue someone after they no longer want to be involved with you. Love doesn't fail, but it's probable that you did.
Before you strap on your knee pads andget to begging, reconsider your actions. Perhaps there is nothing you can do.
Once the relationship has run it's course and your partner is truly spent... There is t anything left to attain. Save your energy for someone new.
Dreamgirls was a successful Broadway play for years. It even made it's way to the big screen in 2006. Original headliners of the staged version included then little known Loretta Divine and now long forgotten Jennifer Holliday. Watching the performance of the then robust and popular Holliday allowed me to witness her successful portrayal of the scorned character Effie White. In a passionate performance she screamed, sobbed and belted the lyrics of "And I Am Telling You, I'm Not Going" in such a way that years later many have made a valiant effort to match her vocal bravado in singing the same song. Of those attempts, most have fallen far from the mark. With this knowledge, I wondered why was it that Jennifer Hollidays career didn't move much further beyond her Dreamgirls fame. Upon doing a bit of google research ( not the most reliable, but definitely the most convenient) I have found several theories as to why Jennifer Holiday's career came to a standstill...
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