Most of us have been in a relationship, and acted a complete fool only for the one we love and/or care for to gather their last bit of dignity and make what feels like a hasty retreat. Never mind that their departure was more than likely a long time coming.
We pushed their their patience beyond their limit and tap danced on their last nerve. Still we always seem so crushed when we are left alone to ponder our folly.
Lets flip the coin shall we? Have you ever been the one who had your fair share of drama and decided to give your significant other the pink slip?
This was something I had to do some months ago. I fount myself in what would best be described as a torrid love affair and as we drew closer to it's conclusion I literally couldn't wait to be done with the whole thing. As soon as I saw my chance I packed my lessons from the failed coupling and ran for my life. Looking back, it may have mean more a trot. I was pretty beat down from the relationship. It drained me of almost everything I had and I was lucky to even have legs to stand on afterward!
After using the cold turkey method (my favorite way to get over someone) to my surprise and dismay,... I was contacted...REPEATEDLY.
Let's be honest, there is a certain part of you that enjoys their suffering, their groveling and sadness over your absence in their life. My inner sadist smirked at the pain that ironically I was now causing but once experienced daily.
I'm not a true sadist however, so my smug response quickly wore off and evened into annoyance. I had no idea why I was still being contacted when I clearly did not want to speak. Eventually,...hopefully after 3 months of attempts to reconcile with me,each attempt was unable to penetrate my armor of adamance and was only met with rejection.
This led to frustration and anger, and possibly pain however, it's no longer my battle. I fought long enough.
What really struck me is the dedication to make a relationship work after all of my interest and efforts were extracted. To make it plain, I wasn't even an option.
I find it pointless to pursue someone after they no longer want to be involved with you. Love doesn't fail, but it's probable that you did.
Before you strap on your knee pads andget to begging, reconsider your actions. Perhaps there is nothing you can do.
Once the relationship has run it's course and your partner is truly spent... There is t anything left to attain. Save your energy for someone new.
When started dating after separation, I did it in phases. The first phase was catch up. I wanted to catch up with every man I had a spark with to explore where it would have went had I not gotten married. Once I realized that these "what if's" were really "don't bother's" I moved on to try to find "the one." After several failed attempts and false starts with "the one" I began making rules. I didn't always know what I liked but I was certain after several failed relationships of what I didnt. However, now that I look back, I realize that plenty of the red flags that made me run were almost always a shared similarity with my ex. If a man said he was interested in anything my ex was interested in, I began to feel uneasy and delve deeper for more "flags". I'll even admit that if a man were from the same country or continent as my ex, I would get turned off. I now know that I was suffering from PTRD (Post Traumatic Re...
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