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Family Ties *A Reflection*

This evening, I finally managed to meet up with some very dear friends.
This was a meeting that had long been in the making, and although I had every intention of catchin up time and life just didn't seemt to permit.
Once I finally managed to see them again it was nice to be able to catch up.
Even with four children and a cranky teen between us, we somehow finagled great conversation along with some humor that could be considered for adults only. Thankfully the children were occupied with themselves and at times each other.
There is an elephant in the room when it comes to this relationship that I share with my friends. There's a certain "I know what you did last summer" quality to our relationship that we all are aware of, but we haven't shared with the kids.
No, there wasn't any swinging or anything of that nature. There's just an elephant in the room. Okay not an elephant, maybe a billygoat.
I often wonder when we will reveal our shared connection to all of the kids, but at the same time I savor the simplicity of the way things are. I value that I am considered a friend perhaps even family and I actually dislike being referred as anything else. However the reality is that at one time, I was something quite different, but equally important.
I know this may sound like a riddle to many but it makes perfect sense to the three of us. I suppose that at the end of the day, I value the connection far more than the way that it happened. I concern myself with the revelation that the children will share, but I have every intention of being there for my friends when its given.

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