He said that he wanted to be friends and "who knows" what God had in store for us. He was open minded. I listened. I even agreed initially. But then he wanted to know why I didn't call him back, or why I seemed distant. He could sense even the slightest distance and yet he couldn't seem to figure out that his careless handling of my feelings were making an already complex relationship damned near incomprehensible.
"I love you." "I love you more and more each day" "I miss you" " I want to cuddle with you"
In the same breath it could be " I went on a date" or "I was with my ex"
It all was so confusing, until I realized it didn't have to be.
During one of our chats he remarked that women often reject cuddling after sex because they believe that a casual sexual relationship shouldn't involve cuddling.
I shared my thought that cuddling is an intimate gesture and if a relationship is strictly sexual, intimacy need not be incorporated.
He then expressed that cuddling is all a part of the experience for him.
So I had to question what the difference was between sex with his woman and any casual acquaintance since there were no restrictions or exceptions.
His reply: The difference is, she is my girl. That's it.
Well said. Because, I wasn't.
Save your cuddles for her and whomever needs them. I will save mine for my man. He was not Him.
Love Lesson #2: We already know that when a man wants you, he says it but what about the dishonest or confused man?? Well that brings us to lesson #2. Listen to what a man says but pay close attention to what he does. Words and actions should correspond. Aim for the man who has conviction, not contradiction.
4 Absolutely not! God must be true, even if every human being is a liar, as it is written:
So that it can show that you are right in your words;
and you will triumph when you are judged.
and you will triumph when you are judged.
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