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I Know What Men/Women Want *Rant*

Have you ever encountered a person who claims to have vast knowledge of the opposite sex?
Do you have that friend who constantly interprets everything you say your significant other does?
I find it amazing when I'm with a circle of friends and one of them says their boyfriend called to tell her he's running late or took a happy hour detour after work and all of the other women give each other a knowing look.
"Girl, he's cheating." Is the phrase that too much of us have heard. While we sit clueless, the leader of the naysayers also known as "The Guru" is casting a pitied gaze upon you.
What about the guy who says that his woman is acting up, unhappy, and irritable? His friends quickly tell him that he needs to lay the pipe on her and show her who's running things. Really?
Pipe laying solves all huh? So this pipe was being laid prior to the issues? I think there is more going on than the plumbing. These are just examples but I can assure that everyone has a Guy/Girl Guru that they have encountered at least once.
Here's the thing: Everyone is different.
You can't make an assumption based on any situation.
There is no person that knows how all men or all women think because that would imply that we all think the same. That would make for a pretty boring world. If every man were the same and every woman were the same, there would be no online dating services because who needs a "match" or "harmony" when everyone is the same? The irony is that people who are single, often have the most advice on relationships. The guru girlfriend of yours who knows what a man wants, what makes a man good, and how to rock a mans world, is single as a dollar bill. It's always just her. Now I have given relationship advice before, but I never claim to know everything. I often admit that I am still trying to figure things out on my own. While I may not know how to make a relationship work, I definitely know how to make one fail and perhaps my friends benefit from my wisdom in that regard. The bachelor who is telling you that sex cures all woes in a relationship is probably focused on sex because he is at a point in his life when he was to hunt for it. He trolls the bars, parties, and hangs at your house hoping to meet your girlfriends friends. His primary focus is to get laid and he claims he wants nothing to do with a relationship. I can assure you that you want nothing to do with his advice.
The man or woman who claims to know all things about the opposite sex typically knows the opposite; nothing at all. Keep your relationship woes within your relationship and address them directly with the person who is in it with you.

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