What Does It Mean to Settle?

What does it mean to settle?
Does it mean that all these black pots, gang up on my kettle and
meddle in my life
telling me whats right
for whom to sacrifice my heart and who's love is worthy of my fight?
What does it mean to settle?
Does it mean you limit your love
by accepting a bad situation and volunteering to be victim
with passive participation
claiming what you want but making no initiation to really have it?
Does settling mean your habit
of taking the blows he impresses upon your body
make you that ride or die kind of shawty
because you take his abuse and lie to everybody?
the fist face two step, that's the dance at this party?
What does it mean to settle?
To love the one your with
but cheat behind their back
make a fool out of the one who helps you live
while you ditch deep grooves for pavement cracks?
sin like the best sinner but say God's got your back?
What does it mean to settle?
To take on the dude even though he tips the bottle?
to take on the fool just because she weaves herself into a model?
Ego's kill me yo
always got to be coddled.
I settle
You settle
We're just varied shades of black
all of us pots
all of us kettles.

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