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Why I Hate The Word 'If"...

If I had the money...If I had a job...If I had a degree...If I were married...If I was feeling well...
If you would have told me...If I never met him...If I never met her... If you listened to me...

I hate the word 'if". If is normally the prelude to an excuse.

Nothing becomes of 'ifs'. Stop using the word. As a matter of fact, just drop the "f". Start using the word "I" instead. When you use the word I, you are now holding yourself accountable and hopefully making affirmations instead of excuses.

I have the money, I have a job, I have a degree, I am married, I feel better, I told you, I met him, I met her, I listen to you....

Doesn't that sound better?

A persons word is very important to me. When the only word I keep hearing is "if", all other words just don't seem as important anymore.

So if you are a person that makes a ton of exscuses... when I shut you down and hurt your feelings... ask me IF I care.
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  1. AnonymousOctober 31, 2010 at 12:24 AM

    I agree...we all make mistakes but what our we doing to remedy our situations??? is the big question. We also have to take responsibility for our actions and all the negative things WE attracted. I hate procrastinators, negative people, and excuse makers right witcha ..lol

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  2. Lykisha PerkinsOctober 31, 2010 at 5:43 PM

    Oh dear mercy I luv this!

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  3. thinkinkyAugust 26, 2012 at 10:38 AM

    I know its super late, but I sometimes reflect and read old posts. I think I should have taken my own advice on this a few times but now more than ever I use I and dropped the "f". In fact, I use the "f" for another word for a select few that need to hear it from time to time.

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