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The Heart's Compass

Who do you call on when you need help coming to a decision?
Many of us call our best friend, a parent, or seek spiritual revelation. Some of us find ourselves on the couch of a high priced therapist hoping for direction instead of reflection. I'm writing this blog to tell you that you don't need to look to anyone else for your answers. The answers are within you.
Each of us are equipped with internal wisdom. We have the gift to discern our life's direction.
This isn't to forsake the God you serve, this is to say if you in fact believe in the God you serve, you should believe your God dwells inside of you and therefore you can seek answers from within. Don't feel guilty about it.
Following your heart takes training however, I'm a firm believer that your heart doesn't lead you wrong. The conflict of the mind and heart is what steers people in the wrong direction. When your heart says "yes" and your mind says "maybe" the signals cross and then decisions that are made are less genuine and influenced by two very separate things. The heart and mind seldom correspond.
So why do we make bad decisions with our hearts?
I believe that my poor decisions weren't made with my heart at all. I believe my poor decisions were made with my ego. We are human beings and therefore very complex. We have many different parts. Our make up goes far beyond heart, and mind. This gives a whole new meaning to being "body conscious". People typically associate the term to mean there is a concern with the physical image of the body however, to truly be in tune with as much of yourself as possible is the achievement of body consciousness that many fail to strive toward but should consider.
The ego causes us to make decisions that we believe will serve us happiness. It's very misleading. When you find yourself in the most torrid love affair with the wrong person, it's because your ego led you to the decision to be with that person believing that happiness would be achieved if you were with them. So you opted to embark upon a relationship that you shouldn't have and blamed your heart as if your heart led you to the decision your ego did. I think that this is why so many people say something "was meant to be" and then feel foolish when it fails miserably. The ego will lead you to believe something is meant to be, when it is only meant to make you feel validated. Most bad decisions at some point satiated the ego.
These days, I allow my heart to guide me through my toughest decisions. So far, I feel like I have more direction than I did when I was allowing my mind to do all of the work. I used to believe the heart was an idiot in matters of love so I let my mind do all of the decision making. This took the emotion out of all of my relationships as I was analytical instead of invested. Now I do my best to let my heart lead me and attempt to remain conscious of my mind and ego. I still have my own questions. I am still learning, but it's easier to journey through life when my heart is my compass.

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