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Be All You That You Can Be : A Reflection

I met him some years ago. It was at a time where everyone was on another planet and we all used to send each other notes and see who was interested in whom. I would partake in the game but never played it with dedication. I just joined in from time to time without anticipation or expectation. I likened myself to a casual gambler. I played what I could stand to lose, never fixed on the big win.
He came to my house. I was quite round at the time, but not shy about it at all. I was round and at well over six feet, he -was quite long. We are all varied shapes. We went to a buffet which seemed to suit both his long and my round stature. We spoke, we smiled. He wanted to be a good pastor. I just wanted to be good. We parted ways, and lost each other in life. It often happens that way.
Years later I went back to that planet that I once would visit and he was there. We caught up. He no longer wanted to be a good pastor, he just wanted to be his best. I realized I would never be good, I was best at being bad. He accepted my lack of concern with being good. He admired my honesty. I admired his goodness. I still do.

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