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How quickly do things change? Just about last week I was dating a man that made me feel like settling down or at least made me think about it again and this week I am totally done with dating.
How is that things can turn around so quickly?
I have learned some things about dating:
 I remember dating a friend and really digging him and after a move and a new job he fell off the planet. By the time he remembered I existed I had long exited the relationship. Still his friend, but never to be anything more. What was my lesson: I need a man who is attentive in EVERY way, not just when I am around him. He's still a great guy, just not the guy for me.
I considered dating a guy I dated years ago but he never initiated contact and always wanted spontaneously make plans... at maybe 10 or 11pm... aka bootycall eve. I had to let that go. Lesson: I'm too good just to be used for my goodies. Again, fun, intelligent, guy but not the guy for me.
I started dating the last guy I blogged about. He was wonderful, but married. No, I'm not a homewrecker! He is going through a divorce and just the information he has shared about his wife and the way he allows her to trample over him like a horse on a dirt road made me see that he is no where near ready to be anyone's boyfriend when he in many ways is still mentally a wife pleasing husband. Lesson: I will NOT be a married mans girlfriend.
So here I am... still single, but not dating. I dont have time for the dates. I dont want to make time for dates. I just want to live my life, make my money and spend time with my children. I dont plan on dating for a long time. I just plan to live as I should, do my best and take lifes lessons. I don't always know what I want certainly know what I DONT want.
For all of my single ladies out there who are longing to be in a relationship, just remember that contentment starts from within and if you can't enjoy your own company chances are no one is going to enjoy being in your company either. Its far too much of a burden to be responsible for someone else's happiness. So be happy on your own and hope you can find someone else to share in it rather than supply it for you.

-Peacefully thinking kinky.

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