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I'd Like A Love Sandwich, Hold The Crazy *RANT*

Emotionally volatile people seldom make it to my to do list for things I plan to deal with. I have an ex. Actually, they aren't an ex. Why? Because I was told that we were never in a relationship.
But I'm still referred to as an ex. Are you confused yet?
Loving someone is great, but if they are insane chances are they won't realize that you loved them anyway. That's the moment when you do the following:
Take your hand and put it in front of your face.
Turn it so you are looking at your palm.
Now bring your thumb, pointer, ring finger and pinky inward toward your palm.
Find your ex and show them your hand.
There is no reason to waste your time trying to prove your love to someone who will never realize it.
There is no reason to fight someone to be their friend. People are in the past for good reason most of the time. Take the loss and you may find out that you have gained something cool...like PEACE.
Every year or so, my ex/not ex because we were never together resurfaces in my life and while I try to embrace this cyclical visit, it always ends the same. I either shut down and shut the interaction off, or the same is done to me. The end result is so predictable that it bores me. The story would be far better if it ended differently each time. Because I am not interested in watching the same stories over an over, I have chosen not to participate in one either. I wish my ex well but I don't intend to make contact for the sake of an update.
What is it about people that makes them think that insanity is okay to bring to the relationship table?
No one can ingest insanity for long periods of time and at some point a person won't be able to stomach it. As much as I can often see the good in people, there are moments when I wonder what the hell was wrong with me when I decided to be in a relationship with them.
If people could just wear their hang ups around their necks it would be so much easier for everyone to be in a relationship. Okay that's a lie. People want you to fall in love with them first so you will stay for the issues. We all have our hangups but crazy shouldn't  have a home anywhere. The longer you entertain crazy, the less of a leg you have to stand on in accusing the other person of being insane. You lose your grip as the role of victim and become a willing volunteer making you just as crazy as the person you're not trying to get away from.

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